This Boujee Black Girls, thoughts on media's effect on self-esteem

“One day you will look back and recall all the time you spent on social media and wonder why you didn't invest that time someplace else.” ― Germany Kent

The Truth about Social Media

How many of us when scrolling down social media, stop and look and maybe even compare yourself to others, or say I should be in that position in my life, or why don't I have a relationship like that....Many things we see on media are distorted truths or staged. But yet they make us feel so uncomfortable or we may question things about ourselves. Now if this doesn't apply to you congrats your self-esteem is top notch, but for others especially our younger generation, the media is making a huge influence on them. We must learn to take a break from media and love ourselves! My self-esteem is not the best, some days I wake up and I'm just like eww is this really me, were other days I think I'm the baddest and no one can tell me different.

The Reality

In order to grow, sometimes you have to take that time away from everything that I may be stunting your growth. One of those things at least for me is social media. I have had the knowledge that sometimes social media effects my views of myself but ignored it due to the fact it was a way for me to help escape the reality. I have learned to follow and only interact with things that have an positive effect on me. Social media can be very toxic especially if you are in vulnerable state. Learn to shut it off and be in tune with yourself and what you need whether goals, future and present.

Don't ignore discernment. If something seems off, then it's off.

Slow Down

No matter how much you wish things could be different, we have to understand some things are out of our control. Just because you may not see your worth in that moment or think you are behind because of a simple post made by someone else, doesn't mean you have failed or are behind. Your are enough, you are just on your own destined path. Never spend your nights scrolling, wondering if your good enough. Or thinking you have to post this fake façade of who you are. Always remember your happiness and truth comes first. Focus on really loving you and your truth, the chaos, messy parts, and even the best parts. Find the strength to walk away and not question your path. Months maybe even years from now you will see why it maybe took you a shorter or longer time to get what you deserved or better.

Acceptance

Media tends to make us think something is the norm when its not. We all are unique, different, and brave in our own ways. Learning to accepting that is going to be hard but we must learn we weren't meant to be the same, and who would want to be? To stop pushing our own hidden agendas on each other and just accept the fact we are different.

What belongs to me flows to me easily

Boujee Tip of the Day: I challenge you to take a break from media, whether its a day or a hour. During that time do something that will better yourself! Try to notice things that you love about yourself, and what makes you unique.. Begin to live in the present, media was not made to broadcast your life but to share memorable highlights of it. Take a break, relax, and live in the moment.