Educated, Boujee Black Girl, America's Worst Nightmare

Dear Black Women

We have been broken into a million pieces, in multiple ways, but yet we always manage to put ourselves back together again. That's a task that most people can not do, but yet you do it with ease, remember that. Be comfortable in your own femineity or whatever your comfort may be. Don't use any defense tactics or anything that is not in your nature of who you are. Especially if you feel threatened, overwhelmed, not seen, or even not loved. Be comfortable regardless of others, be you at your highest form, never change. Someone who is meant to be in your life or wants to be in your life will let you being your true self and never feel threatened by you for it. The key to any woman's heart but especially a Black woman, is solely to be understood, heard, and most of all loved even past the flaws and perfections.

What's genuinely scary about loving someone to me is, that I can truly love someone for flaws and all, and yet its a possibility that you could possibly not decide one day to not love me for mine.

Why anxiety shows up as Irritation

Black women are less likely to exhibit those stereotypical symptoms of depression such as a depressed mood and are more likely to become irritable and self critical. With this happening it makes it more likely for clinicians to overlook a Black woman's symptoms. This makes it more likely for us to be misdiagnosed or even diagnosed with anxiety, depression or etc. Overall because of this is it impacts the treatment we receive because of it not being noticed. A improvement that could help prevent this, more culturally sensitive clinicians especially within the black communities. Black women when you feel more irritable in your life or very frequently take a step back and figure out what is making you feel this way or ask for help

- Dr. Chanda, licensed clinical psychologist ( Also a fellow Black Woman)

Critical Condition

Some people are quick to judge or shut down a black woman when she speaks her opinion. Constantly either telling them she is wrong, uneducated on the situation, or she just be quite and stay in her own lane, or not even fully listening to her story without interrupting her. Why is it? Why can a black woman never be protected or have those safe spaces, sometimes it even hard to find those spaces amongst friends or family. Even someone reading this now may be saying it her, the black woman is the problem and give a list of reasons and actions that someone else hurt them with but we get the backlash just because the woman was Black. Stop only acknowledging a Black woman when she is only crying, being tore down, or even questioned. You can not only acknowledge a Black woman when she is in one of her weakest moments, and expect the best parts of her or for her to support and be there for you. But when a Black woman is being strong and confident, she is to much, aggressive, disrespectful or whatever else. When most women give their nurturing femininity or vulnerability, it is constantly taken advantage of or thrown back in their face. These things are not a Black woman's weakness I wish it would stop being taken as such. It has just been taken as a weakness by people looking in or not understanding the full story. Learn to listen and be receptive of all that you see, because a Black woman being vulnerable is not a weakness to me, maybe you just don't want to hear what she has to say, or you don't agree, or maybe you know she's right and it hurts you to see.

We love a Black Women, to Infinity to Infinityyyyyyyy

Loving the Skin you are in..

A Black woman is not just beautiful, she is fearfully and wonderfully made. A true women who was created to never fit in, but to be unique in every way. God never created me, a black women to fit in, he created me for the sole purpose to stand out. Afraid of being my true unique self in every way, until I realized that was my purpose and power. A generational curse breaker, a innovator & leader, a women with strong foundation, a women with so much power just within her voice and the womb she was created to have. A Black woman walks into a room, and immediately all eyes stare, not only because of beauty, but because of the light that shines within, the passion she exuberates. Love that skin your in Black Women, whether at the age of 8 or 82, never let someone define you, tear you down, or make you feel anything less than your best and full potential. Being a Black woman, is probably the best highlight of my life, and being an educated and God fearing one makes it even better.

Boujee Tip of the Day: Whether you a Black woman your self or an ally of them take time to sit and listen to one! Be understanding and support them rather than being dismissive of one. Take the time to be uplifting and let her know you are trying to make sure she is heard and understood.