This Boujee Black Girls is a Bag Lady…

To Be Understood...

Our deepest desire of our own heart, well at least mine, is to be know and understood completely, and accepted with that same heart. To be able to show every part of me, even the parts I may not understand. But when I do this, its just for you to understand me, not fixed or for you to take responsibility in others wrongs. I love feeling safe enough to be the softest version of myself, I don't want to constantly be on defense. I operate the best when I'm moving in delicacy and true love.

I am extremely protective of the women I'm becoming. So please don't disturb me.

Never The First Choice

I tend to ask myself why am I never someone's first choice, this reoccurring thought constantly stays in my mind. Rather it being the friend they forgot to invite, or being the second thought with someone I am in a relationship with, something always comes before me ( and no its not God, family or their goals). This is without a doubt a pretty awful feeling. I had to realize that I needed to be my own first choice and understand that God always picks me first as well. I also learned that the way people chose you is not a reflection of your own self worth. Take the time to realize that you were chose first in many situations like: your new job, your acceptance into school, or anything else. Sometimes you will feel like the second, third, or even the forth option. Take the time to not only present this to God, but take time to dig into why you feel like this.

Stop accepting things you are really not okay with. You are draining yourself.

Healing Your Inner Childhood Wounds

We learned at a young age to heal wound you have to stop touching it. Cleaning it like you should, not putting the band aid on for to long and also allowing it to breath, and when it finally starts to heal, be sure you don't pick at the scabs. I realized this is something I didn't do with my own childhood trauma, I never allowed those old wounds to properly heal, and doing that left them open and still growing. This wounds are now still something that bothers me ( because they left an ugly scar), or something I'm still constantly picking at because it triggers me. You are never going to get that new layer of skin if you keep picking at the old. So take time to discover your old wounds and lets finally give the proper care to heal.

My feelings are always valid, so don't ever try to belittle them

Positioning is Everything

Am I the only person who feels like I am always behind and or in last place in life? Constantly planning my life or having certain goals, and watching them derail and go a total opposite direction. Seeing those influencers, famous stars, or even someone you know, it makes you feel as if you missed your chance or are behind in life. People will always show the glitter and gold, but never the struggle that may have came with it, so never be quick to have what others may have. Life has many ways of showing you exactly how you can have this goal, but take turns to show you the well deserved bigger picture. You can not rush what is planned out for your life, you can't compare how others are living to your own situation. Those same people who you are watching, worked hard or had different opportunities to reach what was planned for them. The best things in life are unexpected. Keep focused on you and your dreams, and never loose faith.

Boujee Tip of The Day: Listen to Erykah Badu's song: "Bag Lady" really listen the message. Learn to let go of those bags before it's to late.