Only You Can Control Your Perspective

I'm that girl and will forever be that girl, okay?

THAT'S JUST ZO

I have come to realize that I am a young, successful, beautiful, and occasionally boujee black girl! With that comes many staring eyes and haters, sad to say. People will grow not to like you just based off of how you carry yourself, your mindset, what other people opinions may be, and anything else that they can come up with. Those harsh words could come from some of the people closes to you like your family, friends, the stranger that hates you just for being you. Envy causes spite, and sometimes it turns negative fast. They begin to envy what you have, how you carry yourself and the support you get and give. But you must not allow those negative words to begin to crawl into your ear and make you stand down. Continue to be you, continue to be that girl and do just that. I mean hey look at me, everyone called me boujee growing up just on how I carried myself, I began taking it as an insult. I began to change the PERSPECTIVE, and now I know for sure that I am that BOUJEE BLACK GIRL NAMED ZO, and I'm proud of it.

Does anyone else feel like they are going through one of the craziest “re-births "of their life right now?

REBIRTH

So seriously, no one else feels the same? When I say ”re-birth” I mean a shift, a change, new atmospheres! None of the stuff that I use to do , literally does not interest or serve purpose in my life anymore. Evolving daily into this new being. No longer biting my tongue or speaking my truth and revealing my scars. The bare minimum and disrespect does not exist anymore in my life. I now am learning the value and experience I bring to any situation I am put in. God has seriously been working on me inside and out. If only you knew where I started at.

“ The worst thing you can do is become a prisoner to who you use to be, because you are too afraid to become who God has called you to be.“

— Sarah Jake Roberts

PERSPECTIVE

You do not have control over everything that happens in life. The thing you have most control over is your mindset and PERSPECTIVE. You choose how and what state your mind is in. You choose if you want to wake up and start a positive day. Or you can choose to live amongst the chaos. Just like in any bad situation you can choose to be the victim or choose to be the person who evolves from the situation at hand. Allow your emotions to be calm and take a step back to look at the whole perspective and outcome. Realize the decision(s) that have come or may come with it. Then take your next step forward.

CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS

I always have a tendency to feel like, no one ever sees how their actions or what they did to hurt me. Due to their actions I’m very quick to lash out, ignore / isolate everyone, get even with them or whatever my little head comes us with. I tend to get angry with myself 1st to after the situation. Perks of being an overthinker, I draw up every scenario and alternative. So when and if one of the bad scenarios happen I'm prepared, but I’m still hurt at the same time, hence why I get angry with myself. I tend to get in my own head and get upset with myself because I literally saw it coming and it happened anyway. My mom tells me all the time, ” Zo you have a tendency to let people control your emotions, even when they don’t know they have the power”. I had to understand that, the person(s) that hurt me made their decision to take that action, not me. So why should I be upset it shows their true colors. Just be hurt for a moment because that's normal, but after that let it go.

Don't get to comfortable with disrespecting people and just expecting them to "get over it". Make sure you hold yourself accountable. Don't allow your pride to be to big to correct your actions.

BOUJEE TIP OF THE DAY: Just use your 20's as the time to make mistakes and learn lessons. I promise it will make sense in the end. And its okay to cry a tear or two