Let's talk about S.E.X

Dear Mom, please skip this blog post.

- xoxo, your still sweet little girl

BE CAREFUL WHO YOU INTERTWINE WITH...

From stories I've heard from family and friends, especially being raised in a Christian household, I quickly learned that you don't put yours lips on any and everything because things can be transferred. And ladies and gentleman I'm not just talking about STD's and mono being transferred, think bigger. ( YOU THINKING SMALL, AND YOU NEED TO BE THINK BIG SIS )

When you have sexual relations with another your not only exchanging bodily fluids but also believe it or not energies. So if someone enters your body with negative intentions, you will immediately feel those intentions or change within your atmosphere. With these spirit transfers or energy exchanges some, not all, can usually sense things through your partner or have those weird "intuitions". That's why you are able to sense whew your partner is unfaithful or they are going through something personal. It all because they have brought something or someone else's energy not only into your bed but also your body.

KISSING COUSINS

My mom began teaching me how kissing works around the age of 12. And let's just say it wasn't in the normal but it also has taught me a lot. She basically explained if Sally kiss Johnny, and Johnny kissed Tommy, and then Tommy just kissed Jessica a week ago, and Sally decided to kiss Dee the next day after kissing Johnny. Basically Sally went in with the knowledge of kissing just Johnny and Dee, when in actually kissed about 4 or more other people. Now of course she wasn't taking about kissing but sexual intercourse of course. You have to really think about these things when inviting someone else into your body especially if you are just sneaky linking and not in a committed relationship with expectations and boundaries. You have to really sit and think are they just sleeping with me and only me, are they being safe and taking precaution, and sad to say overall are they lying to me about what is going on behind closed doors. So be smart and be safe, and make sure you not kissing your real cousin.

STAY CELIBATE

When in doubt, take the safe route. Before you completely open your world to someone new, make sure you are ready! Not only physically but mentally and spiritually as well, shoot even a little bit of financially love, lets be real. Take the the time to understand yourself and what you want out of the situation at hand. Always go in knowing what you want and what you won't accept, so your never confused. Honestly being celibate helps you take the time to really focus on these questions and not be conflicted in the moment of sexual tension. Last but not least, celibacy is an eye opening experience, and once you go through it, you completely understand how important it is to not just let any and everybody into your body, your spirit, and somewhat your mind. So the next time you think you're about to get down and dirty, check yourself before you unlock that new door.

BE SAFE

Now of course I'm going to be the mom here and say it! Make sure you get tested repeatedly, even be bold and ask your partner to if you feel unsure. Practice safe sex of course, and ladies be extra safe especially with the laws in America currently so do your research and put yourself first. If you need help finding resources always ask your trusted physician, don't Google the answer that does nothing but heighten your anxiety. Stay safe, be smart, and pick your sexual partner wisely.

Boujee Tip of The Day: Do your research on the person the next person you decide to intertwine with, and ask questions don't be afraid. That person will be entering into your world be cautious.